Is Your “Female” DNA Blocking Your Career Growth?
Dondi Scumaci, the author of Designed for Success: the 10 commandments for women in the workplace, has identified some interesting observations about women and their workplace behaviors. Could there really be such as thing as female DNA that prevents MBA women from being identified or recognized as potential leaders?
Now, I have to be honest because I recognized in my own corporate career that I was exhibiting certain behaviors that while I was seen as hardworking, diligent, and dependable, prime leadership roles were not getting funneled in my direction.
Here are some seeds for thought and contemplation:
1) Women are raised and socialized differently from men
How many times have you kept quiet about your strengths and abilities because you viewed that type of behavior as being boastful, bragging and simply inappropriate? Even when you really wanted and deserved that big project.
On the other hand, it always more acceptable for men to be competitive (think sports), aggressive (gotta be a man) and stand up for themselves both inside and outside of corporate America. I am certainly not making professional business men the enemy here, but consider how these mindsets have been holding you back from being heard on your job or going after more challenging opportunities?
2) Women are too modest and undervalue their strengths and abilities
Have you ever stepped out on limb and assertively negotiated your salary increase, benefits package or asked for additional perks before accepting a new job? What about recommending your own promotion in your annual self-evaluation?
Don’t feel discouraged if you have answered “no” to both questions – try this, asking some of your female friends or collegues and you will find that you are not in the minority; women are too quick accept what is given despite their level of experience or qualifications.
What can you start doing this year to start changing this self-defeating habit on your end?
3) Women are too willing to wait for recognition rather than speak up and take charge
Are you the classic ”professional women in waiting”? You know the routine, waiting for the boss to plan your career; waiting for the boss to acknowledge your contributions; waiting for the boss to assign you to a new project; and waiting and waiting.
Create a simple “go-for-it” plan to practice and build your confidence in negotiating and speaking up for career opportunities that are in your best interest.
4) Women are more comfortable promoting their “non-leadership” skills
Women are more frequently acknowledged for their ability to multi-task, be on-the-spot problem solvers, effectively coordinate programs and office events and even delegate assignments, but how many women are the top picks for new leadership roles?
Corporate leaders are often chosen based on their perceived abilities to think critically, make strategic decisions and make tough decisions. The next time you describe your strengths or open talk about your capabilities to your immediate boss, don’t forget to include concrete examples and success stories that demonstrate your potential and candidacy as a future corporate leader?
5) Women are generally great caretakers and often viewed as suitable for support roles
Nothing is wrong with embracing your “female” DNA – celebrate being a nurturer, a caretaker, and an advocate for others, but be mindful of your personal brand and external perception – you want to be viewed as a manager, team leader, change strategist, rainmaker and take-charge individual.
What do you think about your “female” DNA as it relates to your current career? Would love to hear your comments and feedback.
